Life Learning Series

Many a man has the notion that; if a woman just looks back at him, he has already made it to first base.  So, let us switch the focus to the man that was already on first base when the woman first started running there.  If they are to be on the same team, it should be obvious that he cannot stay on first base, or he will be out, as according to the rules of a certain sport of man.  Therefore, the man must run ahead, toward second base.

As the man moves in the direction of direction base, there are these two things that he must consider:

What he wants from her, only

What he wants her to want from him, only

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[What he wants from her, only]

I think that every man should ask God for a visible setback that is seen by the one toward whom he has affection.  In other words, there should be a problem that arises in his life; such that, it will, if it is not resolved or accepted, affect his future romantic potential.  Then, the man will have a chance to experience what he really wants from his love interest.  Then, the man will see if she will stand in the gap of turmoil that sits between periods of calm.  For instance, Jacob was in this romantic calm, before a gap of turmoil . . .

And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn.  Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years.

(Genesis 29:26-27)

At that time; as relating to the younger daughter, Jacob did not do anything physically romantic, such as, kissing–this was not allowed.  Even so, Jacob had romance in his mind, and it was enough to take him through the time of separation.  There was though, one thing missing:  Jacob needed to know that the younger daughter, Rachel, would stand by him in the rough times.  The knowledge came, in that; Jacob received a commitment from the girl’s father.

– Explore How Do You Know: Part Four –

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Faith is now firmly in the equation.  Moreover; since we have not received the desire of our heart, hope is still laying in the spirit.  At this time, though; there is a possible concern about whether hope is alive.  And, even if we accept that hope is alive, in reality; is it (she or he) just teasing us?  We are in this land . . .

The light of the righteous rejoiceth: but the lamp of the wicked shall be put out. Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom. Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathereth by labour shall increase. Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life

(Proverbs 13:9-12)

Though we may want to have things be different; still, we cannot, yet, project our joining-love at the other person.  That is to say; at this time, we cannot fall in love with them–for, it may be that there is no, them, to share in the love, along with us . . . yet . . . as pertains to falling.  However, there is a means of practicing, being in love with them:  because, there is already Someone in Love, with Whom we can fall.

– Explore How Do You Know: Part Three –

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When we look at that special other one, a certain biological reaction will occur.  In this tournament, it might be nice if we were able to bypass swing one in the desire to hit a homerun with our approach to marriage.  It would be just perfect, if we could skip forward, to the time when human expectation stops, and the Spirit’s control begins; but, this will not happen.  This is not how that arena was set up:  we will have to consider the pressure of being in this location in reality, which seems to be fashioned to push us toward this place of yearning, as mixed with a little contradiction.

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.  Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.

So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.  The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.  But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.

(1 Corinthians 7:36-40)

Wouldn’t it be nice, if the LORD would repeat this time, here . . .?

– Explore How Do You Know: Part Two –

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Mankind is a paradoxical creation; in that, mankind wants to know things, and, yet, knowledge must be based on a certain thing that cannot be known.  The thing that cannot be known is this:  reliability.  In the scientific community, for instance; there are things known as, the Laws of Thermodynamics.  These have been accepted as being somewhat immutable.  However, let me place a theory beside those Laws.  Let us add the theory of evolution to the Laws of Thermodynamics.  When we make this combination, then we have a thing that can change.  The thing that we cannot totally rely on is that the Laws of Thermodynamics are not evolving.  So, if these Laws are evolving, then we have no hope of knowing how to approach reliance on a long-term relationship with nature.

Think about this:  what if adhesiveness decides to evolve and, concreteness follows suit.  Then, we would not know that a building that has been constructed will always have the kind of adhesiveness that keeps the joints glued together.  Moreover, we will not know that the bricks will retain their solidity, and not become as mud, again.  The reason that this would become a problem is because; we would have no way of controlling the evolution of these accepted facts of our universe.  Indeed, there have been several science fiction writers that have presented views of what might happen when our, assumed to be solid, proofs of the universe do not apply.  Nonetheless; in spite of that potential fluidity of science, we must do something; mustn’t we?

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Previously, we introduced that, exercise in logic, because that is the same type of analysis that must be done when we are approaching a lasting love relationship.  In this analysis, we are speaking of the relationship that precedes marriage.  In this analysis, the assumed facts that come from this relationship are what form the basis for imagining that there will be a lasting marriage.  As an additional benefit of the analysis, we may build on our knowledge of why we see so much time spent, in the Bible, trying to establish the dimensions of a pre-marriage commitment.  As I think about this, I am reminded of this; one of the longest courtships of record, in the Bible.

And the LORD spake unto Moses and unto Aaron, saying, How long shall I bear with this evil congregation, which murmur against me? I have heard the murmurings of the children of Israel, which they murmur against me.  Say unto them, As truly as I live, saith the LORD, as ye have spoken in mine ears, so will I do to you:  Your carcases shall fall in this wilderness; and all that were numbered of you, according to your whole number, from twenty years old and upward, which have murmured against me, Doubtless ye shall not come into the land, concerning which I sware to make you dwell therein, save Caleb the son of Jephunneh, and Joshua the son of Nun.

But your little ones, which ye said should be a prey, them will I bring in, and they shall know the land which ye have despised.

But as for you, your carcases, they shall fall in this wilderness.

(Numbers 14:26-32)

No, we are not saying that, this is the longest courtship, ever.  Among mankind, I can believe that, there have been longer courtships.  Also, I am not saying that this is the only somewhat lopsided courtship, ever.  Among mankind, there are some men who have devoted their life to a much younger girl child, and passed through the time required for her to mature, for her to be able to fully participate in the marriage relationship.  That is what the Man, the LORD, did for the child, the little ones of Israel.  It was a most unique motivation process, as joined with, necessary purification and excising of a certain cancer.

– Explore How Do You Know: Part One –

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