Life Learning Series

Relationship planning begins when there is an independent intercessor for the relationship.  Ideally, this is the same intercessor that is in the life of both, the man and the woman.  In this thought, I am reminded of the components of an arbitration intercessor.  In the case of arbitration, there is one party that is chosen by two sides of the arbitration, together, and there is one party, each, which is selected by the individual parties to the arbitration.  I think that this leads us to the following intercessor for both:  their pastor or other religious figure that accepts responsibility for both of them, as pertains to analyzing romantic potential and readiness.  This leaves the individual selection.  This is the best place to start that selective process.

Ask, and it shall be given you;

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(Matthew 7:7a)

On each side of the relationship, there is some person that has taken responsibility for the psychological and sociological well-being of the ones who are courting.  Ideally, for each one, this will be their parents.  In this outreach, the parent is not limited by biology; rather, the parent is linked by a strong feeling of trust.

Prior to serious courtship, it would be wise to allow the intercessor-parents to meet privately, with one another, to match the expectation of the man and the woman.  Ideally, the answer of the intercessor, as to the advisability of proceeding toward romantic discovery, will be yes–within interpretation of intention.  It must be assumed that you have discovered one another by passing through the procedure that was outlined by Jesus Christ . . .

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seek, and ye shall find

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(Matthew 7:7b)

On the human side, the interpretation may be as simple as saying, “You’re both adults; you decide.”  It may also be as complex as saying, “Your religious beliefs are such that you cannot perform joined worship.”  This is much like the statement of a physician, telling you of blood type issues that will adversely affect the ability to have children.

– Explore How Do You Know: Part Five –

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Many a man has the notion that; if a woman just looks back at him, he has already made it to first base.  So, let us switch the focus to the man that was already on first base when the woman first started running there.  If they are to be on the same team, it should be obvious that he cannot stay on first base, or he will be out, as according to the rules of a certain sport of man.  Therefore, the man must run ahead, toward second base.

As the man moves in the direction of direction base, there are these two things that he must consider:

What he wants from her, only

What he wants her to want from him, only

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[What he wants from her, only]

I think that every man should ask God for a visible setback that is seen by the one toward whom he has affection.  In other words, there should be a problem that arises in his life; such that, it will, if it is not resolved or accepted, affect his future romantic potential.  Then, the man will have a chance to experience what he really wants from his love interest.  Then, the man will see if she will stand in the gap of turmoil that sits between periods of calm.  For instance, Jacob was in this romantic calm, before a gap of turmoil . . .

And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn.  Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years.

(Genesis 29:26-27)

At that time; as relating to the younger daughter, Jacob did not do anything physically romantic, such as, kissing–this was not allowed.  Even so, Jacob had romance in his mind, and it was enough to take him through the time of separation.  There was though, one thing missing:  Jacob needed to know that the younger daughter, Rachel, would stand by him in the rough times.  The knowledge came, in that; Jacob received a commitment from the girl’s father.

– Explore How Do You Know: Part Four –

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